Enduring LOVE

Conflicts happen in every relationship for many different reasons. In fact, conflict is very normal in healthy marriages.  Now this doesn't mean a blown out screaming(or worse) fight...there are some great ways to correctly handle conflict.  Think about it, if two people agreed on everything, liked all the same things, there would be little or no growth.  Conflicts, when handled correctly, help us realize who we are and who we can become.  It can bring  a couple closer together.
So what are some ways to handle conflict?  The first thing to remember is to always have respect!  When you respect each other, you will find that you're more willing to see things from their point of view, truly listen to them, and do it with love.  Often times when we are upset about something, we can easily find fault and blame in others, but if we we take the blame out, we will see a different outcome.  Here let me show you.

Pain+Blame=Defensiveness 

Pain-Blame=Compassion

Here we can see that if we go to the one we love with just the pain, don't point a finger, they will more likely act with compassion.  

When in conflict with our loved ones, here are some other ways to help solve them correctly:

• Don't fight about every little trivial thing, focus on the issues that are really important
• Have tension outlets: examples are humor, exercise, hobbies, etc.
• Avoid festering resentment: have forgiveness
• Be sensitive to timing: be ready and make sure you and your spouse are ready emotionally to fully be able to handle the conflict rationally
• Communicate!!!  
• Be flexible and willing to compromise
• Use the conflict to attack problems, not your spouse(avoid putting them down) Keep loving while you are fighting! Know the limits, and never being willing to cross them.  This is someone that you love and would like to spend forever with, don't forget you love them.  Say before hand, "I will not hurt this person I love."

I know that when we use these "good fighting" tactics, our marriages will grow.  We will be closer as a couple and ultimately have an  

Enduring Love...

An enduring love  : click this link to watch the video.  A sweet message of enduring love.