In class this week, we hit on a topic that really has stuck with me. We have been talking about the challenges in marriage, particularly the first year of marriage. The topic of gaming came up as being a problem in some marriages. My husband I and many years back, had a personal friend that dealt with this very issue. Our friend found himself lost in another world of a game and often lost track of time. He became obsessed with the virtual world, often neglecting his wife and children. After a couple years of this behavior, the couple divorced. Our friend told us, if he could change things, reverse time and take back his actions, he would. He didn't see what it was doing to his family until it was too late. As I thought about this, I thought about how many times I have seen technology destroying communication and relationships, not just in marriages, but with other friends and family. Many are so dependant upon their electronic devices that they are lost with out them. Don't get me wrong, I think technology can do many great things, but I can see how it can cause a lot of harm. I thought of how managing our time is the best way when using technology. Things As they Really Are is a video that illustrates this perfectly. It made me start to think about my own life and relationships and how important to have "moderation in all things". Satan wants to ultimately destroy our family and marriages. He doesn't want to see us be happy, and obtain what he will never have.
"And I know that one of Satan’s cunning methods of undermining the work of the Lord is to attack the sacred institutions of marriage and the family."--Russel M. Nelson
WE are in control, NOT Satan!
“We came to this earth that we might have a body and present it pure before God in the celestial kingdom. The great principle of happiness consists in having a body. The devil has no body, and herein is his punishment. He is pleased when he can obtain the tabernacle of man, and when cast out by the Savior he asked to go into a herd of swine, showing that he would prefer a swine’s body to having none.“All beings who have bodies have power over those who have not. The devil has no power over us only as we permit him. The moment we revolt at anything which comes from God, the devil takes power” (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, sel. Joseph Fielding Smith [1976], 181).
We need to remember these things. Love and forgive our spouse. We need to not let Satan have power over us and our marriage. Remember why you married your spouse in the first place. This is another great message of a lady who had "fallen" out of love with her spouse. It is a great message of how to gain the love back and heal the relationship. Falling out of love...and climbing back in
Don't give up on your marriage.
"I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step is not separation but reformation. Divorce is not an all-purpose solution, and it often creates long-term heartache. A broad-based international study of the levels of happiness before and after “major life, events” found that, on average, persons are far more successful in recovering their level of happiness after the death of a spouse than after a divorce. Spouses who hope that divorce will resolve conflicts often find that it aggravates them, since the complexities that follow divorce—especially where there are children—generate new conflicts."--Dallin H. Oaks
On a final note, I have one last video. We need to do all we can to keep our marriage strong. Communicate, love, forgive, continue to date, etc. As you do these things, I truly believe that you will find that you love your spouse more than the first day of your marriage. "The kind of marriage required for exaltation—eternal in duration and godlike in quality—does not contemplate divorce."--Dallin H. Oaks Saving your marriage
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